Another lesson...

"Do whatever it takes to be happy, for it is hard to know what life will bring you." In life and love, you may think you're supposed to always focus on the positive instead of the negative. However, unless you become aware of your own hurtful attitudes or actions -- so that you can correct them -- your chances of staying in love 'til death do you part are close to zero. In our case, the "hurtful attitude" was Tam not negotiating with me about our children, and therefore we could not compromise on the issues to a mutual resolution.