1.06.2005

Update...

Found out yesterday that the woman that took my place last summer is going back to school and therefore will be working a part-time schedule, so we will need a booker. Then I found out that the woman whose place I took last summer no longer wants to be the assistant manager and therefore we will need a new one also. So many things are changing and if our CSI doesn't improve consideraly, alot of people will be looking for new jobs. I am going to update my resume this weekend just in case. Jess wants me to get her on birth control pills. I knew this day would eventually come and I have to be strong about it but it still is a difficult thing to deal with. I want her to make good choices but I also know if I put it off too long she will go ahead and have sex with some boy. I will feel much worse if she became pregnant because I allowed my worries keep her from having some protection. We also discussed the fact that in addition to the pill, she needs to use a condom also to help prevent the contraction of STD's. This is a new chapter in my journey as a father and I pray for the strength to be up to the task. I preach alot about seeing the bigger picture, as in recognizing the possible consequences of becoming sexually active. I cannot support her and a baby and she is not in any position to support a child herself. So I will work on teaching responsibilty instead of hiding in a hole and pretending it isn't going to happen. I want my daughter to learn to enjoy sex the way I think it should be done; something beautiful and special shared with someone you care about. Not just a physical act to be bragged about later amongst peers and friends.

2 comments:

Kate the Peon said...

I'm impressed that your daughter would even come to you with that. That says a lot about your relationship. Good for you to have that kind of openness.

KC said...

Wow - now I understand how my Dad felt when I had the same conversation with him...about 15 years ago...

I agree - you must have an awesome relationship with your dughter if she feels comfortable enough to have an honest talk with you about it. I don't know if I could have had that talk with my Dad - I went through my step-mom...

Thank you for having the talk with her about STD's. My parents never had that talk with me and I thought the pill had me covered. I found out in college that my boyfriend was sharing needles (LOSER) and it scared the daylights out of me. Ten years and many HIV tests later - I got lucky. What a great Dad!