I relate to this quote from the advice sight...

"Do whatever it takes to be happy, for it is hard to know what life will bring you." Man's greatest vulnerability is not a physical need, but a psychological one. It is the need to be loved, but not just loved by anyone - to be loved by someone he senses is emotionally independent and strong. This kind of love is validating and worthwhile. So, if you as a woman wish to stand out and make a difference to the man of your dreams you have to make up your mind not to be weak. This is where I made my mistake this past summer. I felt Tam was strong enough to do what needed to be done, and I now feel I was wrong. I loved her for many reasons, but one of them was her strength I thought she had in trying to make her marriage to Alton work, how she stuck it out so long. But now I think that was a weakness, since I am the one that truly has loved her and yet I am the one that was put out in the cold without so much as a 2nd chance for us to make our marriage work. I just don't get it. I do love her.