A quote from my fav breakup advice website...

"Do whatever it takes to be happy, for it is hard to know what life will bring you." Successful couples learn to compromise and to negotiate how much they do together and how much time they spend apart. What your husband wants to do with his time is surely just as valid as what you want him to do with it, and the whole concept of "rudeness," in my opinion, is negotiable. Sounds like you may have momentarily forgotten who your main loyalty is to. The key words are "compromise and negotiate" and "who your main loyalty is to", things Tam seemed unable to do or understand. I hope she learns from this experience so another man will not have to experience the pain and suffering I have from her inability to compromise and negotiate.