A quote from "Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Soules"

"Do whatever it takes to be happy, for it is hard to know what life will bring you."

"It is impossible to have a healthy relationship with someone who has no boundaries, with someone who cannot communicate directly, and honestly. Learning how to set boundaries is a necessary step in learning to be a friend to ourselves. It is our responsibility to take care of ourselves - to protect ourselves when it is necessary. It is impossible to learn to be Loving to ourselves without owning our self - and owning our rights and responsibilities as co-creators of our lives."

I feel in a relationship both parties need to set boundaries and communicate. She did not communicate a boundary as to when enough was enough about the issue with her daughter. No boundary, with no communication, combined with my unrealistic expectation spelled end of our relationship. if only she would recognize that I have learned from this, and then be open to communication towards a reconciliation, with boundaries in place, we could have a life again.

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